Nilofer Merchant, HBR Writer and founder of Rubicon Consulting said:
“When I was 20-something … I walked into my boss’s office, the division leader … I told him that I felt like on any given day I was facing a tsunami of things I could pay attention to, and there was no way I could work any harder to make stuff happen. I was asking for more resources, as the answer. And he sat me down as he might one of his many kids and gave me this advice:
“Feed the Eagles and Starve the Turkeys.”
Feed the Eagles. There are only a few things that matter. Know what they are. And place your energy into them. They aren’t always right in front of you so you need to look up and out more. Starve the Turkeys – lots of things are right in front of you … pecking around, making noise, and demanding attention. Because they are right in front of you, it’s easy to pay attention to them most and first. Ignore them. They will actually do fine without you.”
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We have so many people around us who define our daily life – people we like and who peck around and make noise. These people search our daily love and attention. And we are so familiar with these people that we sometimes only see them and are totally influenced by them.
We only see the pecking turkeys in front us and don’t look up to the eagles above us.
For a loving and empathic person this is often hard to realize. A loving person sees people with an open heart and with love and respects people’s efforts and search for love. But one day you come to a point where you find yourself always in the same situation and nothing changes. This is like appreciating only our beloved family and never talking to other people and forgetting that there is another world outside. It is like mothering our own family till excess and forgetting to give love to others. These familiar people will do very well without us, when they have learned to master their life and to lead themselves. When we learn to hold them with a long leash they will very well do without us. Why? Because they love us and follow us nevertheless. And those who don’t follow us anymore these people we have lost long time ago – we only did not realize that.
LEARN TO CUT THE CORD – LEARN TO GIVE UP MOTHERING FAMILIAR PEOPLE AROUND YOU!
YOU ALREADY HAVE THEIR ATTENTION!
LEARN TO FIND NEW WORLDS THAT MIGHT BE IMPORTANT FOR YOU!
Leadership is not about clinging to familiar people – it is about developing ourselves steadily further in walking new paths. Paths that will help us to grow in ourselves. Only when we have the chance to grow in ourselves we may support other people in becoming leaders, too. Exhausted leadership will never have a chance for growth.
Seek for the eagles and feed them.